Love is a choice and not a feeling?

I have heard him say the other day to a common friend of ours that love is a choice and not much of a feeling. His statement made me think about it. Is it truly a choice and not a feeling? It seems that with the statement, its mutually exclusive to either one. I think love is a mix of both. It is both a choice and a feeling. To say that it is a choice along would mean that just because I decide to love someone I would end up truly loving him when there is the possibility of it not being true love at all. And if it is truly a choice solely, then why are there predicaments when people try to just love the people that love them back instead of pursuing the ones they originally felt for? It's crazy because if it is solely and purely a choice, then the number of broken hearts out there would have lessen and mortality rates to a down, which is not happening.

To say that love is a feeling solely is again erroneous for me. Love cannot just exist on feeling alone for it will easily die down. There has to be action and communication of what is felt. Something bottled inside wouldnt easily be known to the other party without words and actions that are truly heartfelt but how this would be transmitted and communicated, that is where the choice should enter. It is a choice when the person who loves decides to go for it and lets go of what he or she feels. It is a choice to express acts of affection and care towards the other or just let the love die inside without it being known. It is a choice of letting it flourished or just die an instant death because of the decision not to get into a relationship.

There are other arguments to say that love isnt solely a choice nor is it a feeling alone. It is wrong to say that love is a choice and not a feeling. It is more proper to say that it is a choice and a feeling. The absence of one wouldnt make the love whole and flourished.

Nonetheless, why would someone like him say that it is a choice? Love is not a feeling. It is a choice. His voice still resonates in my head. Part of it I guess has something to do with his past relationships. Part of it I guess is attributable to his past bitterness. The words coming from him now scares him. Because if he believes truly that it is a choice, then he might choose to not face the music and face me in the end. He might just choose to kill whatever goes on between us as if nothing happened. And even though I am not hoping for anything back from him, I think I would still break and my heart shattered. I pray that he chooses me and take care of my heart and me just like what it should be.